Re-posted from Brandon Martin
The 1st level most people are in. This is a stage of being “controlled” by pure emotions, lust, anger, confusion, and unconsciousness.
They have no idea what’s going on and are just being pushed and pulled by the tides of what comes to them in their love lives, they’re just following the yearnings in different parts of the body, the same way in which animals do. They see sex all over T.V. and resonate with it. This person’s entire life revolves around sex in someway, whether it’s sex, validation, looking beautiful. This is 55% of people.
The 2nd level is when people fall in love. But they’re so used to the first stage that now they are conscious and have no idea what to do.
Now that they have light shined upon their love life circumstances, they panic a little. There is more than they thought. They look for help. They type in “dating tips” in Google and find something that will begin to help them with their love life situation, they order a subscription to Cosmo. Anything goes at this level and people are desperate. Anything that is going to help a guy or a girl get the upper hand in the dating/relationship life is for the taking, no matter if it involves lying or manipulating to keep whatever it is they have going. This is around 35% of people.
The 3rd level is the level we start to come out of the whole obsession for lust and power in a relationship. We begin to become conscious of why we want power so badly in a relationships and we begin to become loving without any effort.
Secrets are allowed to come out into the open. There is no worry. We understand the problems we face are not about the other person, it’s more about our own inner drives, desires, obsessions and uncontrollable feverish mind. Where as the prior stages we had no idea why we even wanted to take control of our love lives, now we have an understanding.
If you take apart that word understand you have under – stand. It means you have conquered whatever it is you were confused about before and now you stand over it, conquered, and that which is conquered is understood. The third stage is around 10% of people by the way.
This last stage is where I want to bring you to. I don’t want to bring you to be an idiot jocking for power in a relationship.
You only power struggle because you have no self-power.
People who are powerful in themselves do not struggle for power because they already know they have it. What need is there to prove it? I want to pull you out of that icky goo, because that is where relationships thrive.
It’s disappointing to me to see just how many relationships are just stuck power struggle. They argue about the smallest things. They’ll argue about how much change they dropped on the ground to when color their shirt really is blah blah blah.
They’re arguing because they have no sense of self-power. Those who are powerful in themselves have no need to argue even if they feel someone is wrong about something. They have an ability to allow other to speak their mind and have it not be anything to do with them if it is to the contrary of their beliefs. They are accepting of the other’s opinions.
The third level understands the lower two levels because the third level has experienced them, but the lower levels do not understand the third level. They have no experience with it, so they can’t even see it. If you have never seen the color red, there is no way that anyone could ever tell you what it is until you see it for yourself.
Those in the lower levels get upset at those in the third level. They are jealous and insecure mostly, but it can come off as anger and hatred. Unhappy people are very jealous of happy people.
They do everything they can to take a shot and lower that person. When an unhappy person witnesses a happy person, all of the insecurities arise. They start feeling hopeless, sad, jealous and then a lot of the time they displace all of that anxiety into anger and hatred.
Jealousy often appears as anger. It’s seen as weak to be jealous of Paris Hilton, but it’s seen as powerful to be angry at her and call her stupid, annoying or an idiot. Once again the power struggle continues. And get this, because those in the nightmare of the 1st level are the majority, they form amob mentality.
Us humans are heavily influenced by social pressure. If one person says we should become happy but 50 tell us to come to the bar to have a smoke and a drink, most will go have a smoke and a drink even if it compromises their integrity, health and happiness! And if we see one person with the value of 50 people because they have 50 people who adore them, we see them on TV etc. we will take their word more seriously.
TV, media, parents, talk shows, peers all unconsciously aim to keep you in the first two levels.
The world doesn’t like people in control of themselves. If you are a master, then who will buy the Cosmos? Who will buy the $22 billion worth of makeup every year to mask those insecurities (raw foods is the greatest cosmetics in the entire world)? Who would Dr. Phil sell his books to?
It’s sad, but the world operates on our weaknesses, powerlessness and faults. The world is like a vampire: it THRIVES sucking the willpower out of people. But this is not the truth of who we are. We are only hypnotized by the world. The world suggests to us that makeup will make us feel more confident and so we sell our self-power for it.
All you need to do is drill down a little deeper than you’re used to and you will find that the river of power, the river of love, the river of joy is still flowing. It is always there.
To get to that level 3 takes patience, love and relaxation. And there’s no rush. You can’t force yourself to get there; all you can do is allow it to happen.
All you can do is prepare the ground and throw the seeds where they need to be. You can’t force a plant to grow. All you can do is make sure that the plant is in the best environment it can be in.
Relationships take patience.
When we force them, we become stressed and angry and of course we unleash that onto the other. Then the other begins building resentment and so on. Relationships take patience. Out of the patience comes relaxation, comes acceptance, comes love. Then we are exactly where we want to be…. In a relationship that is loving.
How about that!
It’s either fear or love baby.
With honor,
Brandon
