Must-Know Secrets To Save A Relationship

By: Brandon Martin

I’m about to share with you secrets about turning a failing relationship around with a man that most women will never know.

I've taught thousands of women around the world what to do when men pull away, shut down and become cold in a relationship… and what to do to reverse the situation and get your man deeply in love, affectionate, intimate and committed even when things seem “hopeless”.

I've coached college students, surgeons and even high-profile celebrities. What I've learn is no matter what walk of life you’re from, when you feel your relationship failing and your man stops appreciating you and he’s acts like an idiot, that’s about the time that most women give up and lose at love. A situation like that can make you feel more pain and heartbreak than you can take and feel hopeless in changing it.

You start obsessing over the question “what am I doing so wrong?”

If you’re like the thousands of women I've coached over the years to succeeding with men and relationships, you’re going through a similar situation right now.

But I have really good news for you.

After years of investigating the “secrets” relationship dynamics and meeting with experts on male psychology from around the world, I've found that in 99% of cases there is actually A LOT you can do to turn around a bad situation and get more love, affection and intimacy from your man than you thought possible and create an amazing relationship if you understand what you need to do.

It’s actually quite simple to do it just by making a few simple adjustments to the way you approach men and relationships that most women never see or completely overlook.

1. Stop Assuming He Values Your Relationship The Same Way You Do

After spending years coaching many different women, I've found one very interesting little mistake most women make with men in a relationship and they never realize they’re doing it…. and I’m willing to bet you are doing it too.

And simply by STOPING this mistake, you will see INSTANT changes in his energy towards you.

What is the mistake?

Most women carry a deep almost “automatic” underlying belief that men think about and experience relationships the same way women do.

The truth is men experience love and relationships in a very different and unique way than women.

Men get into relationships for much different reasons and have much different wants and needs.

Why is it so important to understand this?

If you don’t understand a man’s true deep needs, you’re unlikely to fulfill him and you’ll see him turn into a jerk, and even pull away completely.

2. Why Men Lose Attraction And Fall Out Of Love

If you’re inadvertently treating your man like a woman and neglecting his needs and emotions as a man, you’re bound to see him lose attraction, act distant and if left untreated even fall out of love.

You must understand what HE actually needs as a man, not what you THINK he needs.

Most women don’t understand male psychology and have never been properly shown how men really think and what they need in a relationship and this can lead to MANY problems that women face in a relationship.

Where it gets trickier is what men say they need and what men ACTUALLY RESPOND TO EMOTIONALLY are often completely different things. That’s because most men are out of touch with their emotions.

If you miss here, you’re sure to wind up with a man who is unfulfilled, losing attraction, doesn’t trust you and doesn’t respect you.

Men can be insensitive assholes… but if you don’t learn what all men universally need at their emotional core to feel satisfied by a woman (hint: it’s NOT what you need at your core), things won’t change.

3. Most Of What You've Been Taught About Men Is Wrong

What’s worse is that things like the television, romantic novels, other women, gossip magazines, soap operas, mom and dad and so-called “relationship experts” have done a fantastic job at royally confusing the hell out of most women!

Why don’t men act the way everyone says they are supposed to?!

The short answer is that the male mind is a much deeper and complex place than most people realize. Women are more confused about men and relationships than ever, and more than ever women are asking the question “what the hell do men want?”

Quite obviously, men don’t behave, think or respond to the things that most people SAY they do.

What I've found after years of searching through tons of misinformation on men is that most “advice” out there is either outdated or just plain wrong.

4. When You Have A Problem In Your Love Life You MUST Ask For Help

I've seen too many good women go for too long in obviously terrible circumstances in their love life without asking for real help.

This almost always leads to massive heartbreak and failure. They’re not getting the love, affection, connection, intimacy and romance they DESERVE and are allowing themselves to go through a very painful, dark, confusing and lonely road all alone.

Often times your love life problems go much deeper and are much bigger than you realize.

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Every Woman Has the Exact Love Life She Wants

Re-post from Brandon Martin

I've seen a few chick flicks in my day, and while they’re good hearted, they tend to be filled with unnecessary drama.

One movie, which had a particularly interesting piece of information in it was The Wedding Date, in which the guy in the movie (a high-class hooker) says in an interview with a journalist “Every woman has the exact love life she wants.” I’m not a fan of marriage, but this quote is right on ball.

What exactly does this mean?

It means that whatever your circumstance your love life faces, you are making the choice for it to be that way.

If things are not going so well, you are choosing to listen to fear and hatred.

If things are going fantastically, you are making the choice to listen to love and happiness. You are owning your own power.But whether you listen to love or fear is not the point, the point is that the decision is your’s to choose.

If you begin to pay particular attention to the circumstances in your love life, you will see that somehow, there was a choice that led you to it. It’s hard to hear, but somebody’s got to say it!

But, many women get themselves wrapped up into a victim mentality. A victim mentality is the opposite of making a choices. A victim believes that all of the choices were made for her, and a victim usually lives her problematic life enjoying it.

Women, unlike men to a large extend, feel guilty for all of their problems.  Women feel somehow to blame.  But this is not true!  You are not guilty, you simply have not taken up the responsibility of your love life yet.  And there is a VERY fine line between responsibility | guilt.

Guilt looks to the past and to what cannot be undone.  Responsibility looks to the future and to what can be created with what you have available to you right now.  And let me tell you that no matter how many times you have failed, there is always room to change right NOW.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but women enjoy their problems! They go out to a bar and have a round of martini’s discussing man troubles. It’s a night out. The victim mentality is everywhere and it’s always being shown to you. It’s on TV, soap operas, movies, the theater, your mom.

People are rewarded for being victims and losing at life, being pushed around by the seas rather than grabbing life by the balls and making their own choices about how they want to live.

There is great fear that once she make the choice to live by her freewill, she will no longer feel valued by others.

A woman who takes responsibility for creating her own love life has the love life she has always wanted.  Checkout this blog post to learn how to get more in touch with this.

When she lives by choice, validation drops away and instead of the validation once received from others, they become jealous. Most women have crappy love lives and they want you to live it right there with them.  We are all selfish and want what’s best for us.

It’s like this: 10% of people grab life by the balls and the other 90% are jealous of them, and the jealousy is disguised in disrespect, anger, insults, rudeness.

But dropping the validation of jealous wannabes for the magnificence of love and happiness is more than a fair trade off 

You are no one’s slave: you are a free being. This is simple truth. Even when you decide that you are a victim, still it is a choice to become a victim.

The very first thing to achieving the love life you want is to take responsibility.  Nothing can come if that does not come first. Only haphazard events will come, and then you will be 40 in the blink of an eye and all of those haphazard events will cease.  Then you will have to take responsibility!  There will be no other choice!

A victim never gets the love life she want. A victim is always a half-hearted event. It can never be full of heart, because even she knows that she’s making the choice to fool herself.

It means that your life is your own responsibility and no chromosome, no friend and TV drama show is going to hold you back from making your own choices, and because of that, you are given tremendous power.  You no longer have to stand by and watch things happen to you.  You have the choice to make things happen for you.

You have the power to make your love life the way that you want it.  I would not say it if I hadn’t experienced it myself.

You hold all of the marbles for your own love life. It starts with choosing to be a victim or to grab life by the balls.

With honor,

Brandon